I haven’t posed a question on the blog for a while because I wanted to give everyone time to recover from our last series of questions. You have always responded to my polls and a lot of you admit that you love them (you know who you are — I won’t out you) and I hope you will this time. Today I have four burning “gay” questions that I hope you will answer, not just for me but all the other readers of M/M romances as well as the authors who have written me on these topics. The questions are embarrassing and the answers might be even more so, but since the blog is about gay men, M/M romances and erotica, certain trends are apparent or emerging in all these books so I wonder ……?
Question: Why 1, 2 and then 3 fingers? (you know what I mean). Is there any criteria for this other than the obvious? Almost every M/M erotic romance has one protag (the top) probing the “entrance” of his lover (trying to use euphemisms here) using first 1, 2 and finally 3 fingers, then declares him ready for some fun under or on top of the sheets. *g* One M/M writer mentioned this in an email a few months ago so of course I stored it away for an occasion such as this one. Here’s her quote “I do have to laugh as well because there are phrases I see in stories that to me are “tired” and becoming annoying for me. For example: one finger in, then two, then three. Heck, stick the whole fist up there, why don’t ya?” Of course we all know that there is something called “fisting” but we’re not going there today, I hope. *g* Does anyone really know the answer to this question? If you do, please comment on the blog.
Question: Gaydar – does it exist? How does a gay man know if someone he’s interested in (who is not out) is gay or not? I read a lot of “gay for you” stories because some female readers love these stories and I review them, and the guys in these stories are either “straight”, bi-curious or deny that they are gay. In the real world, how does a guy know if he can approach another man without fear that he could get a fist in his face? I asked a few gay men this question and their response was that sometimes it has to do with a certain “look” or a stare held a little longer than a straight man would hold it, but the responses were very vague. Guys, if a guy is not out, is there any way to know for sure if the obvious signs aren’t there? How do you know?
Question: Rimming. Yes I’m going there. This is a very delicate topic but more and more it’s a way of giving pleasure in M/M erotic romances, and judging from the reactions of the guys in the books it’s the ultimate “delicacy” both before and after sex, it seems. I just read and reviewed this week two M/M romances that delivered a lot of “heat” because of rimming. The recipient of this hitherto unexplored sexual practice in books a few years ago, which is now standard fare, really gets off on it but what about the giver – is it as pleasurable as it seems? They do say it’s better to give than to receive but is that the case here? I won’t ask all the other questions I would like to about rimming, but I’m sure you know where I would like to go with this (but won’t). *g*
Question: Taste Test. In some of the books I read, the taste of pre-come and come (or cum) is either salty or sweet or any number of flavours in between. I even read an M/M book where the author said that the character’s cum tasted like raspberries (I won’t say who was the author of that book)! My question is, does the taste relate to the foods ingested immediately before sex or body chemistry? For those women who don’t swallow, what does cum really taste like? What about texture? There are so many descriptions of this fluid that I could probably write a book about it. Also, do guys in real life rub themselves in it as portrayed in M/M romances and gay erotica, and if they go to bed like that, do they wake up stuck together?
I know that you have a lot more important “stuff” to think about at this time with all the problems around us but this is exactly the reason I thought I would pose these questions now because we all need to have some fun in our lives – no, not poke fun, just HAVE FUN. As usual, I mean no disrespect by these questions. If this blog reviewed only het books I would ask similar questions about women, but it is almost 100% about gay men, their portrayal in M/M romances and gay erotica, what they would like to see more (or less) of in these books, as well as female readers of these books and what they like (or not) about the books. So please be respectful in your comments.
There are lots of gay followers of this blog and “regulars” and I would really appreciate it if you and all the other gay men out there who check it out on a regular basis, or just occasionally, could respond to these questions. You don’t have to comment on all of them, just the ones you are knowledgeable about, heh! Thanks guys, you have never let me down. If you prefer to respond by email, my email address is firstname.lastname@example.org.
I would also appreciate comments from authors – gay and straight – because some of you have written me about this, tongue in cheek. *g*
Looking forward to your comments with great anticipation.