Ins and Outs of M/M Romance: How Do You Write M/M Fiction? by Sean Michael

Ins and Outs of M/M Romance: How Do You Write M/M Fiction? by Sean Michael

I asked Sean Michael to be part of this series for a number of reasons, the most important one being that I’m a huge fan of his work and I have read at least half of his books. I also know that he has an incredible fan base with both readers and other authors. Who can forget his Jarhead series, Where Flows the Water, the Velvet Glove and Going for the Gold series, Windbrothers and so many others?

Sean is well respected by his peers and his books become best sellers immediately they are released because fans all over the world can’t wait to get their hands on them. He writes compelling stories on many different themes and his name is legendary in the world of M/M romance. His books range from paranormal, to fantasy, to sports, BDSM, cowboy romances, the gritty Jarhead series about being gay in the military, life and death and starting over, and stories about the everyday lives of couples and their emotional traumas when faced with real life issues.

Sean is one of the most prolific authors around today and I’m really pleased that he was able to contribute this post to help new M/M authors, even though his time is in such short supply. When I interviewed him in December 2008 he had been writing for 10 years with 130 books to his credit. Now, 18 months later, he has an additional 40 books published for a total of 170, but despite his gruelling schedule he didn’t hesitate when I invited him to be part of this series.

Here’s Sean’s post:


I’m asked ‘how do you write m/m fiction?’ often.

As in daily.

That question goes hand-in-hand with the question, ‘how do you write so many books’?

My first and immediate answer is simple. Love what you do and do it often.

Yeah, I know. Simple and stupid, but the truth.

I love people – the smell of them, the way they talk, the way they move. I’m a huge fan of sitting and watching interesting men walk by, seeing the way their clothes hang, how they hold their hands. I watch people interact, I listen to conversations, and I spend an enormous amount of time making eye contact.

You can imagine a lot about a man when he meets your eyes. 😉

Then there’s the romance – ask me if I believe in happily ever after and I’ll tell you yes. You know it. I believe that it happens for boys. I believe it happens for girls. I believe it happens in amazing permutations of people that aren’t accepted by society and that sometimes there’s one person on earth for another and some people are built so that they need more.

I’m also a huge fan of sex. What? You expected to hear that I’m a monk? Shit, no. I love everything about fucking (can I say fucking on your blog, Wave?) – the smells, the sounds, the stupid faces, the aches. The way skin feels under my hand, or on my tongue. Watching someone else have sex (especially if they know I’m watching). The interesting places you can get off.  Mmm…

Wait. Sorry. Distracted. Back now.

The point of all that is that I’m in this, soul-deep. I believe that Alex Roberts met Jim South in a bar in San Antonio and fell in love at first blowjob, balls to bones. I believe that in some dimension, there are beautiful, strong, powerful men exploring themselves with their lovers and there’s a community supporting them. I believe that there are possessive werewolves and hungry vampires and kinky swimmers and fantasy universes where men talk to horses and are fated to bond with mages. If I don’t believe, if I don’t know it, I can’t help my readers believe. If I don’t know in my heart that these characters fall in love, then the book is simply words on the page, not a story about how these two (three, four, six, whatever) men made a life together.

On the do it often point – write. Every single fucking day. Write when you’re bored. Write when you’re horny. Write when it’s hot. Write when you’d rather be at the pool or making snowmen. Then, when you’re done, write more.

For every novel I sell, there are two that I started that never go anywhere. Those stories sit – some mature and go somewhere, but most don’t, and that’s okay. Those are seeds of stories to come and a promise to myself that, even on days when the word count is so slow I might at well be ice skating down at the Rideau Canal, that I still have the best job on Earth and that there are men that need me to share their stories with the best readers on the planet.

Well, that and there’s the fact that they will creep into my dreams and threaten to eat me if I don’t let them have orgasms…

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  • It absolutely does show in everything you write that you love what you do…and you believe in love! Great post Sean, and congrats on 170 books awesome! *runs off to try and figure out which ones I dont have, which aren’t that many;)*….cause I have most of em yay!

  • Great post, Sean. Your enthusiasm is infectious. Thanks for taking the time to share with us. I have a couple men in my head right now that pushed aside another story I was working on so they could tell me their story. I’m already totally in love with them. *sigh*

    I think I need to do more people watching… AND make eye contact with strangers. I’m a bit of chickenshit that way… 😉

  • Write everyday. Check. People watch. Check. Only you do more than watch; you absorb. One hundred seventy books? Wow! Congrats. Like Wave, I read many of them, and have many more just waiting for me to have the time (that write everyday thing gets in the way sometimes.) Great insight, and great words of wisdom. Thanks, Sean.

  • Do you know how reassuring it is to hear that even someone who writes as much as you do has ideas which never really go anywhere?

    Massively, that’s how much.

    Thank you 🙂

  • Thanks to global warming you’ll be hard pressed to skate on the Rideau canal these days. It didn’t open until really late this year. 🙂

    Great post. Your passion for what you do comes shining through in your post and it’s great advice for those who are aspiring to make it as an author. Keep up the great work.

    • It’s not hard to believe in Global Warming today, that’s for sure. Thank you, I’m glad you liked it.

  • Wonderful post, Sean! It’s nice to know I’m not the only one who writes down every snippet that rattles around in my head. My biggest supporter doesn’t understand why I can’t stick with one story beginning to end. Makes her a touch nervous when I tell her the voices won’t let me 😉 Thanks for the post, Sean!


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