I need to say this before some of you are tempted to smack me around. This is a FUN post – just take a look at the topic!! 😉
Are authors embarrassed by sex toys? Maybe some of them are because they have no idea why real people or fictional characters would need or want them, however, whatever their personal feelings they bravely include toys in their stories and hope like hell that their protagonists use them correctly. 🙂 Sometimes they guess right, but more often wrong, don’t realize it, and go merrily along. Perhaps they should quit while they are ahead. Readers’ tastes range from one extreme to another, whether it’s in books or real life, and the reason why M/M romances are so popular is that there’s a book for every fan – from kink to vanilla. What I’m saying is, if you’re not comfortable with toys you might want to give them a rest, because your lack of experience or knowledge might show. Also, toys for guys are different to those used by the female of the species, so the learning curve to get it right might be steep if you are of the opposite gender than the one you’re writing about. Even some male writers may not be as au fait as they may think they are about toys. LOL
When I read M/M romances with sex toys there are times I get the impression that adding dildoes, cock rings, nipple clamps, wands, handcuffs etc., (which a lot of gay men use), even mutually shaving their characters’ pubic areas, is outside of the authors’ comfort zones. If you’re an author and you’re going to write about sex toys perhaps a bit of research might be in order. Of course some writers do a good job on this theme, but not enough of them. I’m sure that a few readers wonder WTF? when they come across various sex toys in these books, and there’s nothing wrong with being vanilla which I understand is a very nice flavour. 😉
I was re-reading Sean Michael’s Secrets, Skin & Leather, one of my favourite kinky books (I admit that Sean’s writing is not a favourite of some readers because there’s lots and lots of sex in his books, but I’m a fan) and I was reminded why I love this book. It took me out of my comfort zone and right into the fetish scene, which a lot of readers and authors might consider total debauchery. The reason I mention it is that books like SS&L are great for research into this theme if you want to plunge head first into it.
Reading SS&L again made me decide to do some new research in this area to save you the work 🙂 (I love this kind of research) just in case you wondered about them when you include sex toys in your stories. Many contemporary M/M romances feature cock rings. Have you ever seen one? They come in all shapes, sizes, colours and types. Why, you might ask, would someone in RL or books need sex toys? One reason might be to add a bit of colour or spice to his sex life, like different coloured condoms – I heard that hot pink is now ‘in’. 😉 Obviously not everyone needs spice and there’s nothing wrong with being into vanilla sex with no enhancements, but in case you don’t know what all the fuss is about and want to find out, there’s a whole world out there that might be worth exploring. For example, some authors may believe that wands are things used by the good fairy in fairy tales, but wands have more pleasurable uses apparently, 🙂 although inserting one seems painful, but like BDSM (which is a whole other topic), maybe pain and pleasure are part of the game.
If you’re shy you can order just about anything online, but if you want to touch the merchandise before you take it/them on a trial run, many shops that sell sex toys are located in high rent districts, not in some seedy back street where you might be attacked. In Toronto, the best known shop for sexual aids is Lovecraft and it’s located in Yorkville, possibly the trendiest area in the city, where all the beautiful people hang out. Hmmm….. I think what I’m saying is that if the sex play in your books include toys maybe you should do some research. I find research on some topics titillating, don’t you?
I wanted to include many more pictures but I was afraid of turning all of you off – some of you probably are already, but you must realize
by now that if you write or read books about gay sex they are not going to fade to black like Harlequin romances, because M/M romances are not your grandmother’s romances. Realistic portrayals of sex between the protagonists might at times include toys, and I don’t mean Ken and Barbie.
Now that I’ve had my fun I’m interested in what you think about sex toys in M/M romances. Do you like them or are you ‘meh’ about the whole thing? Do you like kink in your M/M romances and RL occasionally?