Burning Questions Again … ‘cos I love them

This is my first fun post in a while so please don’t send any brickbats my way authors. Why would I go here again having asked many readers questions about gay men’s sex habits which you patiently answered? Because I love your responses. ๐Ÿ™‚ I came up with these questions while I was reading a pretty boring M/M book (no, I won’t tell you the name) and I needed to keep awake. ๐Ÿ˜† So here we go but I warn you, a lot of the questions are about oral sex since it seems this is a huge part of romance for gay men.

1. How is it that cocks don’t get bitten or chewed off during oral sex since gay men do it all the time (in books anyway)? Do they develop more expertise because they do it so often that there’s no chance of a piece of their dicks being chomped off? Are there documented cases of guys with teeth marks down below? ๐Ÿ™‚ Maybe there’s a video on YouTube. :popcorn:

2. What’s with all the humming in M/M books during oral sex? Where did this start and do gay men really hum when giving a B.J or did one M/M author dream this up years ago and everyone else ran with it? Does humming really make the experience more pleasurable for the guys? At times there was so much humming going on I felt as if I were in the middle of an orchestra. ๐Ÿ™‚

3. Why do gay men whimper in the M/M books I read? Is this something authors think they do in RL? Every time I read about this I think of my dog who only whimpered when he had to go outside. ๐Ÿ˜•

4. How do gay men find it so easy to relax their throat muscles so that they don’t gag. Is this a skill they are born with? If so, that is so unfair. ๐Ÿ™‚

5. I was wondering if a few straight men have a burning desire for and fantasize about getting blow jobs from gay men since many straight women suck (ha! ha!) at giving B.Js (that’s what I heard). ๐Ÿ˜† You probably don’t know the answer to this question — I did some research and none of the straight guys I talked to would admit to wanting a walk on the wild side.

6. Moving on …. Recently I noticed that many authors have their guys engage in rimming and tossing a salad. Is this common practice by gay men in RL?ย  When I toss a salad I usually think of foodย  :eating: not sex.

7. Despite a post called Numb Shots by Damon Suede who is definitely gay, most straight female authors still have their guys “take the edge off” before engaging in anal sex. :thinker:ย Why?

8. Why are authors still having their guys tie off condoms. ๐Ÿ˜ฎ Is it because they love pretty bows?

9. I understand they do it on occasion, but can gay men really enjoy sex with a woman? Or are they better at faking it than straight women? Would they get thrown out of the gay brotherhood if their sekkrit were ferreted out?

10. And finally …..why is it that in almost every gay romance the guys suck cock before they even say hello? Is there a rule that oral sex is a rite of passage for gay teens and gay men so that they know how to do it before they even know how to kiss? Just asking. ๐Ÿ™‚

As always, I value your input. If you have questions that I can include in a future post pleaseย share them in the comments. :hearts01:


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  • I’m commenting a little late, but I’m late in catching up on your posts wave. I’m sooryy ๐Ÿ™

    I’m a guy and I don’t really like it, or have ever had guys use a lot of teeth.

    It’s all about the tongue near the head, for me ๐Ÿ˜€

  • Tried to comment earlier, but I was too busy hiding under a bus seat ’cause I was embarrassing myself by laughing out loud, really loud :blush:
    Seriously too funny, very educational too, I like that combination
    (Just not when riding the bus) *note to self, stay away from jessewave when in public*
    Thanks guys, I needed a good laugh ๐Ÿ˜€

  • Hello Christopher

    Thank you for dropping by.

    but no one wants to insert their dick into the knife draw after all.

    I never thought of teeth in a B.J. like that. ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

    Q.2 Everyone (at least the guys) seems to agree that the humming we read about it in M/M romances is really all in the authors’ imagination. Fiction and fantasy. ๐Ÿ˜†

    Q. 3 I still think of my dog with his legs crossed every time I read about whimpering. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Q. 4 I still think it’s unfair that the guys seem to relax their throat effortlessly, but I’m happy to know that it’s not that effortless. :blush:

    Q. 5

    I know Iโ€™d sure like to ask my new personal trainer this question

    I take it your personal trainer is both hot and straight. ๐Ÿ˜•

    Q. 6 – Rimming
    it is one of the best things to do ever!

    WOW. I guess the authors got this one right, at least in your mind. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Q. 7 – Taking the edge off seems to be another myth.

    Q. 8 I never could figure out why so much attention is paid in M/M romances to getting rid of a condom. Your solution seems to be a lot easier and definitely won’t harm the environment. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Q. 9

    how to deal with breasts flopping around everywhere like blubbery beached whales? Ewww!

    I understand your perspective but that does seem a bit harsh. :blush:

      • Well, as a gay man you might not see the point of breasts during sex but, think of all those babies who would not be alive today but for breast milk. ๐Ÿ˜ฏ

        I did understand your point BTW. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Someone gave me a link to this page from Josh Lanyon’s Goodreads site. Interesting questions!

    1. Some guys just can’t give good head without their teeth getting in the way. The occasional friendly nip is fine of course, but no one wants to insert their dick into the knife draw after all. Good head is all about suction and tongue and lip work. At least in my opinion. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Personally, when I give a bj, I like to use the figure of eight.

    2. Humming? Can’t say I’ve ever done it or had it done to me. Weirdness.

    3. I suppose guys can whimper. But I agree moans and groans are more common, even when they’re high pitched.

    4. Ah, deep throat action! It takes practice and concentration. You have to learn how to suppress the gag reflex. Someone once told me that one way to do this is to make a fist with your left hand with your thumb inside and squeeze tight at the same time as you try to relax your throat. I’m not sure there is any physiological truth to this however.

    5. I don’t have too much experience of straight guys. But I know I’d sure like to ask my new personal trainer this question.

    6. Yes, rimming is very common. Maybe not on the first time with a guy, but it is one of the best things to do ever!

    7. Taking the edge off? Maybe when I was 17…now at 33…errr…no.

    8. I just chuck ’em in the bin wrapped in tissue.

    9. Never had sex with a woman and to be honest the thought of it makes me feel a little ill. I mean…how to deal with breasts flopping around everywhere like blubbery beached whales? Ewww! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    10. Well I’d say that finding out if you’re sexually compatible with someone as soon as possible is important. It’s good to get sex front and centre right at the start to make sure the chemistry is there. If it’s not, then there’s no point in pursuing a romantic relationship.

  • As a gay man myself, I would like to add my voice into some of the questions

    1) Practice and common sense. You wouldn’t like to have something hard and somewhat sharp dragging across your delicate bits. At least I am not into that :p

    2) Never had it done to me and since I only had sex in bathhouse of late, I never tried it with anyone.

    3) & 4) Due to the reason above (the bathhouse related), I wasn’t observant or have it happen to me. It probably required a certain level of intimacy that was lacking in the bathhouse. I didn’t wants to exert myself over someone whom I wouldn’t see again

    5) Never crossed my mind actually. I had sex with a man who told me he had a wife once in the bathhouse. But it was just a bit of post coital talk.

    6) I don’t do rimming but I love getting it. I still feels too icky about doing it.

    7) I supposed it was because it speaks of the prowess of both MCs that were written. That they can be virile and do it multiple times to intensify their relationship and how much they are into each other?

    8) Less mess perhaps? Since I don’t do anal sex at all, again, it feels too intimate to doing that with some stranger in bathhouse.

    9) I used to imagine hetero sex when I was young but as I became more aware of my preferences I not mostly focus on men and their manly parts ๐Ÿ˜›

    10) I don’t get that though… the part where the MCs sucking cock before saying hello. At least not in the gay romances that I read. For me though, I would prefer to get to know the guy a bit before getting down and dirty. That didn’t happens in the bathhouse because my intention was to get off and not getting acquaintance. But I did made some nice friends from getting down in the bathhouse though…

    • Hi Pete

      Thanks for responding. I can see that those bathhouses are front and center in your sex life. :blush:

      A lot of the guys mentioned that teeth are not really part of their B.J play unless they are into a bit of pain. ๐Ÿ™‚

      Q.2 Because I read about humming all the time in M/M romances I wondered if this was something that gay men did or if our writers were overusing their imagination. From the answers it looks like the latter. ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

      Q. 3 & 4 – that bathhouse again. ๐Ÿ˜† You need to get a boyfriend Pete.

      Q.5 Looks like sex with straight men isn’t done as often as we think, based strictly on this survey. ๐Ÿ™‚ Or maybe the straight guys don’t admit they’re straight. ๐Ÿ˜ฏ

      Q. 6 Icky is the word I would use too, but to each his own.

      Q. 7 Most of the guys say that this doesn’t really happen despite what we read in books. ๐Ÿ™‚

      Q. 8 Men don’t seem to care about the mess.

      Q. 10 As I said before you have to get out of the bathhouse Pete. ๐Ÿ™‚

      • I do need a boyfriend… ๐Ÿ™ But the thing is, I am attracted to caucasian and maybe latino men and not the asian men. As you can see from my flag, I am Thais living in Thailand. So that’s difficult.

        To expand a bit on the deepthroat thing. I have it done to me and it was very lovely ๐Ÿ˜›


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