Skylar M. Cates Guest Post: It’s Coffee Time!

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It’s Coffee Time!

Are you shy at conventions? Do you hang back when you really want to approach the writers, but they are in a thick, intimidating crowd? Then I have the solution. Stand near the coffee pot.

Ah, coffee. It helps me wake to the world and start my day. In my household, I’m the solo coffee consumer. Yes, I love my husband despite this serious flaw of not needing daily caffeine. But he fails to truly understand my relationship to my latte. This has some good and bad consequences. For instance, it is my endless task to make the coffee; on the other hand, I always have the first (and the last) cup.

At writing conferences? Nobody wants to greet others, let alone speak to them, until that mug is full.

I found this fact out after attending my first conference. Despite being early to the event, a crowd had already gathered in one specific spot. The lure of free coffee and doughnuts was enough to get even the late night party crowd up and moving. If I wanted my cup of Joe, I had to stand in line.

Friends’ eyes were crusted and heavy-lidded, as they grunted a hello. Not one smile or hug until the caffeine kicked in. Then we all became animated. We laughed. We talked about characters and plot twists. The smiles got wider and more welcoming as the coffee pot was replenished.

Want to piss off a group of writer? Fail to serve them coffee at a morning meeting. Of course, I’m sure there are exceptions, a few odd ducks who prefer tea or water. But for the most part? Writers are extremely coffee-centric.

So what is the point of this little insight? Well, I’m kind of shy. I’m fine on a panel with a focused discussion. It energizes me and I’m relaxed. But I feel all kinds of awkward walking into a party. I retreat back to middle school on those occasions where I’m going to a social function solo.

I’ve found the best social icebreaker is to stand right at the coffee area. All the writers I want to meet congregate there eventually. If I feel too shy to mention how I admire their work, I can always engage the writers about the beauty of Starbucks or what type of creamer is best. That’s my simple tip for today.

Why are so many writers addicted to their caffeine? I have no clue, lol.

Maybe we keep odd hours writing and are constantly tired? Maybe it stimulates the part of the brain that’s creative? Maybe this is not particular to writers at all? But I’ve yet to attend a conference where the coffee line wasn’t really, freaking long.

This very moment, in fact, while you read this post, I’m at the Dreamspinner conference in Orlando. I’m blessed to get to meet amazing people and writers, and I’m going to push myself more to engage with them. Maybe I’ll even become a true extrovert this year, matching the wild antics of Damon Suede (he’s a truly, incredible force of energy!). Okay, that will never happen for me. And really? I need to only be myself. But I’m going to try and say hello to new people, I’m going to approach more tables at more parties, and I’m going to leave my comfortable and safe corner for the center of the room.

And you can bet I’m drinking some coffee first.

Secrets of You.
Title: Secrets of You (Sunshine and Happiness #4)
Author: Skylar M. Cates
Publisher: Dreamspinner Press
Release Date: March 3, 2017
Genre(s): Contemporary, Healing/Comfort
Page Count : 220
Reviewed by: PIU, Natosha, Lili and Ele

It’s never easy to find redemption.

Carrying scars and regrets, River Darcourt avoids too much intimate contact. Among his friends, he is known as a quiet loner. Forget about love. It’s not something he will consider… until sweet, young, and tempting Morgan Hayes becomes his housemate. River closed his heart long ago, but the attraction is impossible to deny.

Morgan Hayes needs a change. He is moving out of his critical father’s home and in with his friends, including his secret/not-so-secret crush, River. Having feelings for River is a terrible idea. But what is a guy to do when the annoyingly sexy mechanic is just across the hall?

While Morgan has overcome ugliness and is ready for love, he’s just not sure River ever will be. They have both experienced pain in their lives. So Morgan dares River to take a chance, and love will either break their fractured hearts in more pieces or, just possibly, make them whole again.

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Skylar’s Bio

Skylar M. Cates loves a good romance. She is quite happy to drink some coffee, curl up with a good book, and not move all day. Skylar dreams about spending her days writing her novels, walking along the beach, and making more time for her good friends. On a shoestring budget, Skylar has traveled all over in her early years. Although, lately, the laundry room is the farthest place she has visited, Skylar still loves to chat with people from all around the globe.

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